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What To Do When You Feel Like Quitting: The Solution

In our last post, we went into detail about the five most common ways people quit on themselves and their journey of financial freedom. In this post, we want to offer the solution.

Here are six exercises that we do personally anytime we feel like giving up on something that matters in our lives. Going through these exercises really helps get our hearts engaged again. (Hint: You + Journal + Quiet Place = Best Results)

6 Ways We Process Through The Desire To Quit

1. Identify the Why: Why do you feel like quitting? It’s obviously from stress, but what exactly is causing it? If nothing else, it’s helpful to understand why you feel the way you do.

2. Pros & Cons: This may sound simple (I’m reminded of an episode of The Office where Michael lists out the pros and cons of dating Jan), but it is a powerful exercise. Specifically, list out 30 reasons why it would be beneficial for you to keep going, and 30 reasons why it would be detrimental if you quit. Share the list with your spouse.

3. Set Goals: You may realize that the stress you feel is from unrealistic expectations. For months Beth & I prayed that we would be out of debt by a certain date, only to experience great frustration when that date came and went and we were still in debt in the high five figures. Identifying your unrealistic expectations and adjusting your goals accordingly will relieve some of the pressure you’ve put on yourself and give you a renewed outlook on your situation.

4. “I Want” List: Make a list of all the things you will do or buy once you are out of debt. Nothing is off limits, and it doesn’t have to be realistic or spiritual. It simply has to be emotional – the goal isn’t to impress God or others, it simply has to get your heart back in the game. The process of creating this list helps you more emotionally than it does to simply review it, so feel free to redo this exercise when you feel tempted to quit pursuing financial freedom.

5. Celebrate Each Victory: One thing Beth & I did that really helped was to create numerous “finish lines.” We didn’t wait until we were 100% debt free to reward ourselves. As an example, if you’re trying to save up $1000 emergency fund, once you do, take your spouse out to a nice date night to celebrate. We recommend making these “memories,” so instead of blowing $30 bucks on a steak, spend the money on an event that you will remember, such as a concert or event – something you can take a picture of. It may help to attach a reward to each one of your debts (Example: When we pay off the student loan, we’re spending a weekend at the beach). Just pay for the rewards with cash and know that the more you spend on a reward, the longer it will take ultimately to pay off your debt, so don’t go crazy.

6. Prayer: The sixth and final point is prayer. This should really be the starting point, not the ending point. Personally, I get motivated by writing out goals and dreaming. But for Beth, she’ll get a cup of coffee and her journal and sit out on the porch for an hour, quietly processing through her emotions and writing out prayers to God. One thing we have made a habit of doing is praying together before going to bed. Some nights it’s a simple “thank you for today” prayer and other nights it is deeper intercession where we lift up the needs of our friends and family and certainly our own needs.

Praying together can have a profound effect on a marriage, because in a very real way you’re inviting God to invade your marriage with his goodness. Psalm 118 says “give thanks to the Lord, for he is good.” It’s a simple verse, but it bears reflection. He is good. He is not out to get you. He is for you and he wants you to live in freedom and walk in the purpose for which he created you. You’ll never hear me say that God wants you to drive a Porsche, but you have to know in your heart that he designed you to be free in every area of your life.

Committed to your success,

-Wesley

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The Double Punch Principle: A Little-Known Secret to Reaching Your Goals

I’ll admit, I’m a bit of a doughboy. I’m working at it, but I can say from personal experience that losing weight is tough. But getting out of debt is tougher.

Both of these goals rank high on the most common New Year’s Resolutions list. However, studies show that only about 8% of the population that make resolutions ever achieve them. Why is that?

There’s a myriad of reasons, and a simple search on “goal setting” will provide most of the answers, but here’s a simple and powerful principle that you won’t find. I call it the Double Punch Principle. Here’s how it works:

 The Double Punch Principle

Step 1: Write down two of your top desires (goals are measurable, so “lose weight” and “get debt free” are just desires, not goals…yet).

Step 2: Find ONE measurable goal that will help you fulfill BOTH desires.

Example: Losing Weight and Saving Money

The best way to understand the Double Punch Principle is to see it in action. My wife and I are “hybrid” vegans. We eat very healthy at home, but when we go out to eat all bets are off (I recently had a full rack of ribs at 4 Rivers BBQ here in Orlando…yummy). So if my desires were to lose weight and save money, my Double Punch goal would be to eat out less, resulting in weight loss and saving money.

The challenge is that you HAVE to make goals measurable – you can’t master what you can’t measure (search “most common resolutions” and you’ll find that they are never measurable, which is why no one achieves them). So if we eat out three times a week, an easy goal would be to only eat out twice per week. I can cut out about 4000 calories and save over $100 a month just by doing this one thing. That is a “SMART” goal, but the power in a Double Punch goal is that it enables you to fulfill two (or more) independent desires with one goal.

Two desires…One goal. It’s so simple that people miss the power of this.

Committed to your success,

-Wesley

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