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What To Do When You Hate Your Job

Raise your hands if you hate your job.

A Gallup survey from 2011 showed that 71% of employees are either “not engaged” or “actively disengaged” from their work. My wife and I got “engaged” because we loved each other. If we were “actively disengaged” then it would be safe to say that we didn’t love each other. So if 7 out of 10 people are not engaged at work then the obvious conclusion is that most people can’t stand their jobs.

There’s a reason we did not name ourselves Debt To Wealth (although I like that name too). We all know money cannot buy the things your heart truly desires. You can have tremendous wealth and still be completely empty of Life. But what money can buy is freedom. People with wealth have more options than people who do not have wealth.

That’s why I love talking about creating wealth – in my mind it’s the same as creating freedom for people. Freedom to do the things you love. And mostly, freedom to be the person you were created to be.

When we were buried in debt it was the lack of freedom that hurt us the most. I was stuck in a job that I didn’t like because that paycheck was a necessity. Knowing that I had to make a certain amount every month just to pay the minimums, I had very few options. I looked at other jobs from time to time, but starting a new career at the bottom of the ladder would have killed us financially. Because I couldn’t afford a pay cut, I was a slave to a job I couldn’t stand.

Diligence: a Principle and a Promise

So how about you? Hate your job? Burnt out? Feel like the clock is ticking and your true giftings and calling are wasting away?

The Bible says that “Lazy hands make a man poor, but diligent hands bring wealth” (Proverbs 10:4).

In this simple verse God is declaring both a principle for success (diligent hands = wealth) and making you a promise (if you’re diligent you will have wealth). I know there are poor people who work hard, so I’m not saying I understand every dynamic at work here. But you have to admit that you don’t find many lazy people who are wealthy.

Be Thankful For Your Job or Break Out Of It

If you can’t stand your job, the worst thing you can do is to be part of the 71% who disengage.

Jesus taught that those who can be faithful in the small things can be trusted with more. Some of you just need to be faithful with the job you have and trust God for more. My encouragement to you is to develop a heart of gratitude for your job. Put a filter on your mouth and commit to not saying anything negative about your job (easier said than done).

But for some of you, your job is a prison and the warden’s name is Fear. Even though you hate it you stay…rationalizing that you need the money. But deep down you know you’re really too afraid to make the change. My encouragement to you is to write yourself a letter from the future.  Three years from now what are you going to wish you had done? Write a letter to yourself explaining how it feels three years later since making a change. Likewise, write a letter telling yourself about how you would feel in three years if you don’t change.

It has been said that everything we do is either motivated by love or by fear, and we tend to regret any decisions we make out of fear. If you want a life marked by greatness, embrace the discipline of diligence, and pursue only the things that make your heart come alive. Success lives at the crossroads of passion and diligence.

Committed to your success,

-Wesley

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Me Inc. – Run Your Life Like A Business

Is it possible to be wildly successful in business yet be a personal failure? Of course it is. Sadly, most people don’t realize that many of the same qualities which make a person successful in the marketplace are absolutely neccessary to be successful at home.

John Maxwell wrote a book titled “Make Today Count.” The subtitle of the book contains an incredibly powerful truth regarding success: “The secret of your success is determined by your daily agenda.”

For years I lived with the mindset that success was just around the corner. I worked diligently at my profession, but in my personal life I lacked self-discipline. I failed to take the things that brought me success in the marketplace into my own personal life. In short, I had a daily agenda for my work life, but failed to have a daily agenda for my personal life.

Too often we show up to work focused, but waste our time at home. We work with discipline but live with slothfulness. We work as if our jobs depend on it (because they do), but live as if our lives don’t depend on it. Failure to perform at work comes with immediate consequences. But in our personal lives, we push things off into the future (“I’ll start this tomorrow”), not realizing the consequences of this until it’s too late.

If you want to be successful at home and in your personal life, then you have to run your life like a business. Do you have an agenda for how you’re going to spend your time today? Do you have a plan for you family? Is your marriage on mission? Do you set goals together with your family? Do you have a spending plan? Have you identified your competition – those unhealthy things vying for your attention or that of your family?

Or do you just let life happen?

The old proverb is true: failure to plan is planning to fail. You will fall short of your potential until you learn to run your life like a business. This isn’t a nice and cozy message, especially to those who have an aversion to the business world. However, if you truly desire to get the most out of life you have to come at it with a plan or it will pass you by.

Committed to your success,

-Wesley

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The Right Recipe for Success

(Before reading this post make sure to read our last post about the wrong recipe for success)

The first step to success is to know what it is. It sounds simple, but ask 10 people what it means and you’ll get a variety of answers. Most replies will focus on money.

So how do you define success? Endless wealth? Satisfying relationships? A career doing what you love? Personally, I don’t think there is a better definition than the one given by John Maxwell: “Success is knowing your purpose in life, growing to reach your maximum potential, and sowing seeds that benefit others.”

Now that it’s defined, how do you get there? I believe this is the right recipe for success:

Clear Purpose + Smart Goals + Daily Action = Success.

 Clear Purpose

I read about a very wealthy businessman who broke down crying at the end of his life, confessing how he would trade all his wealth just to know his purpose. Let me be incredibly clear: You can be wealthy without knowing your purpose, but you will never feel successful unless you have a grip on your purpose.

Smart Goals

Do you have goals? I don’t mean wishes…dreams…desires…I mean goals. Most people can’t even define the difference between a goal and a desire, but the difference is vast. We discuss goals in depth in other posts, but suffice it to say that until you develop a daily (or at least weekly) habit of goal-setting, you will fall short of your true potential. Don’t underestimate the power of goals.

Daily Action

Here’s where the true difference is between the successful and non-successful people. The average American can tell you what happened on Glee the last three weeks but can’t tell you what action they’ve taken towards their goals in the last three months (or years???).

I’m writing this post in a coffee shop in Orlando. We get a lot of retirees in this area, and for about the last hour I’ve been listening to these two gentlemen talk about their retirement. One of them made a statement about how his brother’s pension was 3 times higher than his because his brother had worked longer for the union. He made the following statement, “If I had only invested five more years into the union my pension would be better.”

IS THIS NOT A TRAGIC STATEMENT?

What if he had invested five years into taking action every day towards his goals instead of working towards someone else’s dreams? He wouldn’t have even needed to quit working…just small focused action every day will yield tremendous results over the course of years.

I’m convinced that most people are stuck in jobs they don’t love, working with people they don’t like, going to bed every night feeling generally like a failure. They don’t pursue their dreams because they either feel like it’s unattainable or don’t believe they have what it takes. Neither are true.

Purpose is like a jigsaw puzzle. Some people get to see the front of the box and they know exactly how the different pieces of their lives fit into the big picture. For me, I get a couple of pieces at a time, just enough to keep moving in the right direction. But the overall picture (the “finished product” of my life) is still hazy. I can move forward with confidence though because I trust that God knows the big picture and is helping me fit the pieces together.

So whether your have the full picture or just a piece of the puzzle, strive to define what your clear purpose is in this season of your life. Set clear goals which act as steps toward your purpose. And take daily action towards those goals. That, my friends, is a recipe for a life well-lived.

Committed to your success,

-Wesley

P.S. We’d love to hear from you! Where are you at in the journey – still figuring out this “purpose” thing, working on goals, or trying to develop the habit of daily action? We respond to 100% of our comments!

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Why Debt is Not Your Problem

Can you explain in just one word why you are in debt? A few words that come to mind are college, unemployment, emergencies, desires, and marriage.

For me, that one word would be “easy.”

It was easy to get a car on payments. It was easy to put our honeymoon on credit. It was easy to finance new bedroom furniture. Most people are in debt for this reason – it’s easy. Is there anything you can’t finance these days?

Debt is not your Problem, and Money is not your Solution

I’m currently about 30 pounds over what I would consider my ideal weight. However, I would be deceived if I believed that I had a problem with my weight. My true problem is that there’s a breakdown of control between my fork and my mouth.

Napoleon Hill said “If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self.” If you dig deeper into any area of your life that feels out of control, you will always discover a lack of discipline in that area. Lack of discipline always precedes chaos.

Financial discipline is a prerequisite for financial freedom. Getting into debt was incredibly easy for us – shockingly easy – and it took a tremendous amount of discipline and focus to get free. There will be times when you want to quit, when it feels not only difficult but impossible. How you respond in those times will determine your success.

Getting out of debt is like a boxing match. It’s okay to take a short break between rounds, but the second you throw in the towel it’s over. God is in your corner, and we’re in the stands cheering you on. Just keep fighting and you will get your victory.

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Committed to your success,

-Wesley

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